Bits of wisdom from Parenting Your Powerful Child: Bringing an End to the Everyday Battles by Dr. Kevin Leman. Excerpted by Jean Matthew Hall.
“Every family has a powerful child…or two.
Some are easy to pick out—
you can hear them from way down the block.
Others you may not recognize as powerful,
but they’re master manipulators.
But you, smart parent that you are,
can learn how to transform your child’s power surges into
positive urges that will benefit everyone in your family
(and a whole lot of other grateful people
in your child’s world too.)
Proverbs 2: 6 (HCSB)
“For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.”
Powerful kids have your number; don’t think they don’t. Yes, it’s easier in the short run to give in. It shuts them up temporarily (until they want the next thing). But neither of you win with that strategy. You might gain a breather for an hour or two before the demands begin again, but you set yourself up for the next situation. You’ve given your child more power—a deep-seated attitude that she has to win and additional confidence that she will win if she follows her plan. (p. 24)
Powerful young kids become powerful junior highers, who become powerful high schoolers, who become powerful adults…
Curbing powerful, attention-getting behavior is critical at every stage. (p. 27)
You, parent, are your child’s best champion. Powerful kids don’t just happen; they’re created…by you.
The good news is, what you’ve done, you can undo with determination, persistence, and willpower.
POWER POINTS (page 32)
More POWER POINTS from Dr. Leman next Tuesday.