12 Principles of Parenting

“The rain fell, the rivers rose, and the winds blew and pounded that house. Yet it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on the rock.”        Matthew 7:25 HCSB

The most important “career” we will ever pursue is that of being a parent. Over my 50 years of doing that job God has engrained some foundational truths into my philosophy of parenting. I’d like to share 12 foundational principles with you—the principles upon which most, I hope, of my daily, in-the-trenches decisions were made.

  • Be Involved. No one can parent effectively from a distance.
  • Be Intentional. Things will NOT simply turn out okay. YOU and God pave the path for them to do so.
  • Invest Time. Both quantity and quality of time spent with our children count.
  • Enjoy Our Children. Play. Laugh. Goof off. Daydream. Together.
  • Establish Family Rules. Enforce them.
  • Be Consistent. Even when it hurts, be consistent. Don’t cave in.
  • Love Them. Always put their welfare ahead of our comfort or convenience.
  • Demonstrate Grace. Forgive. Make exceptions when warranted.
  • Don’t let “No” become your default answer.
  • Reward Character—not talent.
  • Lead by Example.
  • Trust God to make up for our parental shortcomings.



I recommend the book Follow the Leader: a Biblical Plan for Raising Godly Children Rev. Rick Calloway for guidance in becoming a godly parent/leader in your home.


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